New Moon Intentions, Visions, and Wishes

Setting intentions, visions, and wishes during the New Moon is a powerful way to connect with the Universe. Your rituals may be simple, or more extravagant, but the key to having intentions, visions, and wishes during the new moon is to be intentional or purposeful. You don’t need to have a bunch of tools like candles, incense, crystals, or essential oils, but those are nice to have if you have them on hand. It is important that whatever you choose to do, you do so with care and consideration of your desires. Further, take time to write down your intentions before the new moon. Reflect on what worked over the past few weeks and what changes need to be made.

The New Moon is a great time to set up these new intentions, visions, and wishes because this cycle represents a clearing or a phase for personal growth so that you set yourself up for success during this lunar cycle.

This will take some practice and you may find that it will take a few cycles to truly hone what you’re requesting and how you’re requesting it. To begin, you’ll want to go into a sacred space in solitude. You will probably want to cleanse the space with sage or a spritz. Here’s a short cleansing prayer:

I cleanse this, my sacred space to clear out old and negative energy, so that new and positive energy may serve and bless me.Cleansing Prayer for Smudging

Once you’re done smudging, you’ll want to get into a comfortable position and prepare yourself for the meditation. You may want to listen to music, or choose to listen to the silence of the room you’re in. When you’re ready, take a deep breath or two and sit ready and open to the messages coming in.

Be sure to listen to your intuition and allow the energy of your thoughts flow. You may want to write down what you’re hearing, so that you can reflect on it after you’re done meditating. When you’re done with the meditation and you’ve written down your intentions, visions, and wishes you can move on to my Guided New Moon Meditation to help you complete your ritual.

Loneliness of Motherhood Part 1

Wives are lonelier now than they’ve ever been. “The Captive Marriage” an Essay by Nora Johnson, 1961

US researchers found that out of 218 studies, people who were lonely had a 50% increase risk of early death, compared to 30% increase risk with obesityFurther, loneliness is just as dangerous as smoking.  But loneliness isn’t talked about, especially among mothers.

As a child of the 80s, I often daydreamed of what my adult life would be like.  Lots of kids and married to my best friend for life.  And that’s what happened.  I have 6 amazing kids and I’m married to my only and best friend.  My marriage and certainly the birth of my eldest in 2000 changed the dynamics of my friendships.  I moved from what was familiar in Florida in 1999 to Virginia.  Starting over wasn’t hard, but I had a hard time finding my groove again.

We moved from Virginia to South Carolina in 2001.  Then back to Virginia in 2006.  My youngest son was just a few weeks old when my husband deployed.  Then I got pregnant and had our 5th child, 3 months before my husband returned from another deployment.  Then pregnant again with our 6th and final child.  My husband deployed for part of that pregnancy as well.

We had decided after failed attempts at me getting a job (no one was hiring a pregnant, military wife).  It was certainly cheaper for me to stay at home, rather than get a job and bring home a paycheck.  BTDT and it was a disaster.  All my income and part of my husband’s income went to childcare.  So, I quit.  It wasn’t worth the cost of losing money.  I tried contributing financially through offering in-home childcare.  That didn’t work out either.  I lost money my first year and the financial “gains” that were supposedly guaranteed were not there.  I also tried many direct sale companies.  Hoping something would allow me time out of the house, while providing a small income to contribute to the family.  But this too was not meant to be.

I reached out and found babysitters for the kids, enrolled them in scouts, and did my best to stay busy volunteering.  But this busyness was at a cost.  It meant that my personal life was at a standstill.  That my connections to others were only what I consider surface relationships.  Nothing too intense, because we were frequently moving.

When we tell our young daughters that motherhood is a joyful and happy time in their life.  That they will feel blessed.  The truth is, while loving on our children is wonderful, our essence as humans is missing a key component; friendship.  Relying on the goodness of others.  Leaning on friends and family during times of need.

It can become difficult when you can’t rely of friends or family.  We lived too far from anyone for their continued support.  And the support we did get was strained because the relationship was not strong enough to begin with.

Loneliness wasn’t a choice I anticipated when I became a mom.  But it’s something I have endured for many years.  Going online and looking for friends helped a bit, but it’s not the same as a 1-1 connection you have with someone that you see regularly.

Therefore, take time to really go inward and learn about who you are and what you want in life.  So much has changed and you may find that your dreams and desires have changed as well.  Be ready to release anything that is holding your back from truly loving yourself.

Self-love is more than just taking a shower alone.  It’s understanding and honoring your heart and soul.  To allow yourself to have the freedom to pursue those things that interest you.  That inspire your core.

It’s not enough to be active, but to be active in something that inspires you and lifts your spirit.  Reach out to community events, volunteer roles, and find time to let go of your feelings of inadequacy.  You are not alone in your feelings.  Be honest, and if someone rejects your honesty, move on.  There are so many people out there that want a friend, and maybe that friend is you.

Join me next week when I dive into how to go inward and learning how to love yourself.